Monday, April 7, 2025

When Others Don't Believe in God

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I often remember when I was growing up in church, someone would always have a prayer request: "please pray for my lost loved ones."

It is sad that many do not believe in Christ.  That's the reality of our world.

I have several non-believers in my life too.  Does that make me any better than them?  No, absolutely not.  They are good people and they all treat me kindly.  I pray for each one of them often especially if I know of a need they have or something going on in their lives.  They never ask me to pray for them but I still do.   That doesn't make me any kind of saint or anything but I have always believed that the MOST I can do for anyone is to pray for them.   

We can't force people to believe.  No matter how much we want them to believe, there is nothing we can do.  I'm also not one to debate.  I have never known debating to win anyone into believing.  Debates are a waste of time.   I am a believer.  Period.  Always have been and there is nothing anyone can say to change my mind.  I am also not going to pound anyone over the head with a Bible or quote worn-out religious cliches to them.  That certainly won't make anyone a believer.

I know people who would push the issue and "witness" to non-believers but I think that's a dangerous thing to do.  Personally I think forcing the issue with non-believers risk having an opposite affect on people.  There is already enough bad publicity about being a Christian.  In the United States it has been politicized and has further pushed people away for believing.    

The most any of us can do is to pray for non-believers.  Leave it up to God.  He can do whatever, whenever and however He wants to do it.  The pressure is not on us.  I know at times I have stressed about it until I realized there isn't anything I can do to make someone believe.   I just need to pray for them and trust God to do His part.  

Naturally I would love for everyone to believe in Christ but, sadly, that isn't the reality.  There is still the option of people having free will to make their own decisions.  Are believers perfect?  No, absolutely not.  I make mistakes and I have moments where I slip up but I never give up and I never want to give the impression that I have it all together because I don't.

Being a believer takes a commitment.  You can't argue someone into it and we can't paint it being a life where you no longer have problems.  Sometimes believers are the only Bibles that non-believers will read so if there is any pressure at all, it is us to us to be a good example.  

Only the Holy Spirit can change the heart.  I have been blessed to have been taught about Christ and have believed from an early age.  I had a pastor once who belittled my experience by saying that I cut my teeth on the church pews.  Yes, I was raised to be a believer but it's the only way I know to live.  I know many others have not.  We have all traveled different paths in our lives and we all have different experiences.  God knows where we all are and He is able to reach us where we are.  


  

Thursday, April 3, 2025

Don't be all Willy Nilly and other strange sayings


Here is another collection of strange sayings we use and their origin:

"You're acting all Willy nilly!"
Describes something done haphazardly, without any particular plan or method, or in a way that doesn't consider personal preference. The saying traces it roots to the Shakespearean expression “will ye, nill ye” which is a contraction that means “whether one wants to or not.”

"We have to go back to square one." 
Means to go back to the beginning after failure. The meaning likely originated from early British radio football commentators who divided the field into numbered squares to help listeners visualize the game with square one representing the areas around the goal.

"If you go as the crow flies..." 
Is when someone describes the shortest route to a destination. It is based on the fact that crows are very intelligent birds and tend to fly straight to the nearest food supply. One origin traces this saying before modern navigational methods were introduced, cages of crows were kept upon ships and a bird would be released from the crow's nest when required to assist navigation, in the hope that it would fly directly towards land.

"We're behind the eight ball." 
Refers to a bad situation. The phrase comes from pool (or billiards). When the cue (white) ball is behind the eight (black) ball, a player usually has no shot.

"It is the Chefs kiss!" 
This is a gesture or a way of expressing that something is excellent or perfect. It is often used to signify a delicious dish or a job well done. The gesture imitates a chef kissing their fingers. This gesture is believed to have originated from the image of a male Italian chef performing this gesture—often with a mustache, white chef's hat, and apron—spread in US advertisements after World War 2.

"It's not worth a hill of beans." 
Is a phrase said when something is of little or no importance, value or worth. It is believed that this expression was first used almost 700 years ago when Robert of Gloucester described a message from the King of Germany to King John of England as “altogether not worth a bean.”

"Be here or be square."
Is an informal expression encouraging someone to attend an event, implying that missing out is considered not cool. The saying originated in the 1940s jazz scene where “square” meant someone who was considered boring, out of touch, or not cool with the music and culture of the time.

"They are an odd duck." 
This description means a person who is considered strange, peculiar, or quirky often in a harmless or endearing way. The origin of this description comes from the Hans Christian Andersen fairy tale “The Ugly Duckling” where the duckling didn’t fit in.

"The world is your oyster." 
This means that you can do anything you wish or go anywhere you want in your life because you have the ability to do so.  This saying is thought to have originated from William Shakespeare's play, The Merry Wives of Windsor, where the character Pistol says, "Why then the world's mine oyster, which I with sword will open," implying the world is a source of opportunity to be seized. 

"I stand corrected." 
Is a saying when someone acknowledges that something you previously said or believed was wrong, and you accept the correction provided by someone else. It's a polite way of admitting you were mistaken. This phrase was first recorded in John Dryden's The Maiden Queen (1668): “I stand corrected, and myself reprove.”

"We're pulling out all the stops!" 
To pull out all the stops means to make every possible effort or use all available resources to achieve an end. The "stops" in question were originally the physical stop knobs of a pipe organ.  This saying originates from the world of pipe organs, where "stops" are knobs that control which sets of pipes are playing, and pulling them out activates those pipes, creating a fuller, louder sound. 

"Looks like you're in a pickle." 
Usually means to be in a difficult or awkward situation with no easy solution.  The origin of this saying is believed to come from the diary of Samuel Pepys on in 1660.  

"Let's spill the tea!" 
This is a popular slang phrase that means to share gossip, secrets, or juicy details about someone or something.  This is believed to have originated in African American and LGBTQ+ communities, particularly within drag and ballroom culture.

"You got off on the wrong foot." 
This is what is said when someone gets off to a bad start by doing something completely the wrong way.  This most likely originated from the superstitious belief that the left foot is unlucky or from military traditions where marching always starts with the left foot.  

"You were caught red-handed!" 
Usually means to be caught in the act of doing something wrong or illegal, often used in the context of crime or wrongdoing.  To be "caught red-handed" originated from 15th century Scottish law, referring to someone apprehended in the act of committing a crime, specifically with blood on their hands, often related to poaching or livestock theft.

"Can you hold down the fort?" 
Is used when someone is looking after things while someone else is away or busy doing something else.   This phrase comes from the Western frontier times where soldiers and settlers would "hold the fort" to protect their settlements from perceived threats.

"Not to be a Debbie Downer." 
This means to avoid being someone who consistently expresses negative or pessimistic views, dampening the enthusiasm or happiness of others.  This phrase originated from a character on Saturday Night Live played by Rachel Dratch who was known for her consistently negative and depressing remarks.

"It's the bees knees." 
This usually means to be of excellent or extremely high standard.   The origin of this phrase is difficult to trace but most believe it gained popularity to its rhyme and the general trend of creating bizarre animal-related phrases during the 1920s. 

"We're going to hell in a hand basket." 
Usually describes a situation that is headed for disaster.  The origin of this phrase has been much debated.  Some believe that it relates to the baskets used to catch guillotined heads in the 18th Century.

"We'd better high tail it out of here!"
This means to leave a place very quickly or in a hurry, often in a way that suggest urgency or a desire to escape.  The origin comes from cattle ranch slang in the 1890s referring to the way a running cow or bull raises its tail when running.

"Don't cut off your nose to spite your face."
This phrase describes a situation where someone takes actions that ultimately causes them more harm than the intended target.  It was not uncommon in the Middle Ages for a person to cut off the nose of another for various reasons, including punishment from the state or as an act of revenge.

Wednesday, April 2, 2025

Goodbye to Nashville

Today we say goodbye to Nashville.  

We have lived in and around the Music City for the past 10 years.  

I was excited about moving here in June 2014 and now I am happy to be leaving here in 2025.  

This isn’t and wasn’t “home” to us.  It was just another stop in the journey of our lives.   I have come to realize that we are wanderers.  We have never been able to live in any one place for a long time.   

Did we hate it here?  No, but it is time to go.

I still remember when we first arrived. We had lunch at a restaurant on Lower Broadway and I liked how alive it felt to be here.  That feeling didn’t last and I can probably count on one hand how many more times we have ventured down to Lower Broadway after that.  One of the common misconceptions is that Lower Broadway is the same as Music Row.  It is not.  Music Row is an entirely different area.  Lower Broadway is a tourist attraction full of bars and places to have a party.  

Nashville is definitely a party city and we came to realize that Nashville is the unofficial bachelorette party capital of the world.  One of the most annoying things about Nashville is the “entertainment transportation” which are the party busses, pedal taverns and all of the other ridiculous forms of mobile drinking and yelling that goes on both day and night downtown.  Another negative about working downtown is whenever there was a special event or another excuse for a party downtown that parking prices were jacked up for those of us who worked downtown every single day.  

There is one thing to know about Nashville - this place is always under construction.  It has changed dramatically in the 10 years we have lived in the area.  It is not the same as it was.

Another thing about Nashville is that the traffic is awful.   I know that is probably the same complaint for any large city but the design of highway system here is puzzling and something I would not wish on anyone to experience.  It is very challenging to get around the Music City.  There is no good transit in this city.  None.  When we first moved here we rented in Mt. Juliet east of Nashville and I took the train to/from work which I really liked.  However, that is the ONLY train service which is really, really dumb.  Nashville should really expand that service.  There is much more congestion in other areas which would be benefited by train service. 

As a sports fan, I became a fan of the Tennessee Titans and Nashville Predators since living here.  The most amazing time here was when the Predators played in the Stanley Cup final in 2017.  The years leading up to that were amazing to see here.  Although it ended in disappointment, this area was completely crazy about the Predators.   The last couple of seasons I have also become a fan of Vanderbilt basketball.  I definitely have some fond sports memories here.

Food is also awesome here but we converted to vegan/vegetarian a few years ago so our choices have been limited.  Some of our favorite places have been Pucketts, Five Points Pizza, AVO and Suki.   Really, you can find about any type of food here.  Usually the more spicy the better.  Hot Chicken is the specialty but never my choice.

Celebrity sightings?  Oddly enough, there hasn’t been much to speak of.  

For the first six years in Nashville, I worked downtown during the week.  Sometimes I would walk around different areas.  One of my favorite lunch spots was in an area called “The Gulch”.  It was also a good place to sit and enjoy the vibes of the city. 

We did have some favorite places to visit like Cheekwood and the Nashville Zoo.  The zoo has improved so much in the years we have lived here.  It’s amazing to see how much it has grown into a first class zoo.

A house is not a home, neither is the place.  We are taking our home with us as we look forward to our next adventure.  

I haven’t hated living here, it’s just time to move on.