My feelings were hurt.
I hate to admit it, but it happened. I was totally blindsided by it and how I reacted to it.
I won’t tell you the details because it isn’t important and, in fact, you would probably think it was something petty. Maybe it was but I can’t help but feel the feelings I felt.
Hurt feelings ultimately happen to us all. It's just a part of life. Sometimes it is intentional and other times unintentional.
I didn’t plan on getting my feelings hurt and I even denied it at first. Something happened and it stung me. I’m still recovering but I will recover from it.
Being a believer doesn’t make you immune to getting your feelings hurt. It happens. The important thing is to acknowledge it and get past it. This thing that has happened to me isn’t something I am going to allow to be a long-term thing in my life. I won’t let it develop into a grudge or something that becomes bigger than it really is.
So, what can you do if your feelings are hurt?
- Be honest with yourself and acknowledge that your feelings have been hurt. If you deny it and keep it bottled up, it could blow up later.
- Talk to God about it before you tell anyone about it. Many times, people will make light of that fact that your feelings were hurt. That doesn't help you much. Jesus cares. We are supposed to cast all of our cares, anxieties, worries and concerns on Him because He truly cares and understands what we are feeling. (1 Pater 5:7)
- If you need to confront the person that hurt, you then you should do that but sometimes it isn't something you need to do. Use wisdom when you are thinking about whether or not to address your hurt with the offending party.
- Move on from it. Don't dwell on the hurt. Begin the next day with a new attitude and resolve not to allow your hurt feelings to evolve into a grudge. Keep it from becoming something long-term.
Hurt feelings doesn't mean you have to become bitter. Unfortunately, we can't control what other people say or do but we can deal with the hurt feelings so that we can move on from it. We can't control others, but we can control ourselves and how we respond to hurt feelings.
