
What a bunch of bull!
Words hurt. Sometimes they hurt more than sticks and stones.
We live in a world where it is too easy for people to sling those verbal "sticks and stones". They hate with hurtful words and comments on social media as well as face-to-face.
People are mean and hurting words can get you to where they can cut you deep. I have known people who will say hurtful things until they find that button which will hurt the most. I can withstand hurting words until you get to a certain point and find that place that truly hurts me. It's sad that people have to do that. Don't be that person to break someone's spirit. The last time someone broke my spirit, it changed the course of my life.
Hurtful words are bad enough but it is often the WAY someone says something which stings the most. The tone is so important. I think I can be hurt many times by the way someone talks to me than the actual words itself.
Let’s be real. We are going to be hurt by what someone says. No one is immune. Honestly hurting words from church people over the years have been etched into my memory and hurt the worst. You would think that church is the last place you would expect it.
So why do people say hurtful words?
Sometimes they are hurting and they lash out because they can’t handle their emotions.
Sometimes people are jealous of you and think it is their job to bring you down a notch.
Sometimes people can’t deal with their own failures and take pleasure of ruining your success.
Sometimes people are just mean. Period.
We have all been guilty of saying the hurtful words too. If you’re human, you’ve done it. I know I have and I have regretted it.
We are all shaped by words.
I often recall my own father calling me an “idiot”many times when he was upset at me or frustrated with me. That shaped my personality and gave me a fragile self-esteem which I have had to rebuild over the years.
When we are hurt by someone’s words, the most important thing we can do is to forgive quickly. Trust me, this is hard to do because the first reaction most of us have is to fire back with our own hurtful words. Forgiving quickly is so important. If we don’t then the words sink in and create a place in our heart into a grudge. When it gets to the point of being a grudge, it can last way too long.